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  1. Campus Recruitment Program Design Tips

    December 19, 2011 dmuvha670

    Are you looking for tips on how to design a Campus Recruitment Program?

    Below, are 15 easy steps to design an attractive and effective Campus Recruitment Program. adult live chat These steps will help you walk out of the college/university campuses with accepted copies of appointment letters of the desired candidates. adult single chat

    The steps to design a Campus Recruitment program can be bucketed into three major set of activities (process). There are activities during:

    Pre-recruitment process

    Recruitment process

    Post Recruitment process

    Let me share with you the set of key activities during each of these bucketed processes to help you understand this better:

    Pre-recruitment process: There is a great degree of preparedness required to get an effective campus recruitment program grounded, good preparations ensures great results.

    1. Get the business heads to share the number of people required from the campuses as a part of the Management/Graduate Training Program. It is useful to get the locations of posting mentioned along with the manpower numbers to be recruited. If the number of manpower to be recruited is consolidated at a function/department level, it is recommended to get the details of which team/sub function the manpower is required. This brings in more objectivity while hiring and boosts accuracy of hiring.

    2. Identify the roles that befit the management /graduate trainees in terms of skills and competencies. It is important to keep in mind that most of these potential hires will be towards the beginning of the learning curve of their professional journey. Hence it is imperative to take adequate measures before they are handed over the set of responsibilities/targets in the organization. Remember, The Campus Recruitment Program is to hire the best fit and help the recruits to succeed in their jobs.

    3. Identify internal champions within the organization who can manage this pool of young recruits and familiarize them with the organization. These champions also act as endorsers for the Campus recruitment program internally and ensure the program is managed well and is a success

    4. Have a designated person/people to interface with the colleges/campuses well in advance to build relationships with key people e,g. placement coordinators, professors, key influencers. Also design a Campus engagement program with the targeted campuses/colleges for higher recall and turnout ratio during the placement process.

    5. It is imperative to define the Employee Value Proposition of the organization that works best in the colleges/campuses. What is the unique proposition that the organization is offering? Is it the role, compensation, career growth opportunities, learning opportunities, off shore assignments, or is it a bouquet of attractive propositions? The sharper the value proposition definition, the better it will be to attract and recruit the desired candidates

    Recruitment process:

    1. The recruitment process begins with the campus calendar. There could be multiple colleges/campuses whose dates could be on the same day hence it is imperative to have a pool of interviewers in advance tagged to different places, travel schedules firmed up and logistics in place. Remember, most of the interviewers take this assignment as a call beyond their regular duty hence a hassle free experience for them is the HR managers’ responsibility.

    2. It is preferable to have the information ahead of the placement day about the other companies visiting the campus on the same day as yours. It helps one to have the sense of the competition around and the Interview and other related processes can be tweaked to make it more attractive and compulsive in the competitive environment. It also helps to sharpen the recruitment pitch that day to attract the desired profile of candidates.

    3. If the Pre placement talks are scheduled on the same day, it is imperative that an alumni from the institute accompanies the pool of interviewers for experience sharing as an ambassador of the organization

    4. The interview process itself makes a lasting impression and is often a factor of consideration amongst the students. The team needs to wisely use the discretion while choosing the interview pattern, stages, rounds etc. If a group discussion is conducted, the forms, methods, topics etc used are very important factors. Also, it is important to have Meritocratic process of short listing/rejecting candidates.

    5. It is important to ensure the closure of Candidates Selection process right at the campus. The offers should be rolled out to the selected candidates on the spot. If pre printed appointment letters can be handed over to the candidates, it is worth the effort. Getting candidates to accept the offer/appointment letter restricts them to appear for other interview and in more than one way ensure they have made their final choice and is likely to come on board

    Post Recruitment process:

    1. Many organizations face the challenge of candidates dropping the offers even after accepting it during the Campus Recruitment program. Since there is a time lag between the offers made at the campus and their possible joining date, a lot of these candidates scout for other opportunities and of ten do not show up on the agreed date of joining. Continuous efforts need to be made to ensure the offered candidates are not dropping out and this can be done through a “structured Post recruitment engagement program” to keep the offered candidates engaged with the organization.

    2. It is worth the effort to keep candidates engaged with the organization during the post offer period by regularly updating them with Company news, newsletters proactively, a SPOC (Single Point Of Contact) should be identified who can keep interacting with the candidates and keep them interested in their choice of the employer

    3. Closer to the date of joining, proactive communication kit about the logistics and other details should be sent to the candidates. It is a wonderful way to reach out to them with desired information and not wait for the queries to flow in the mail box. It creates a winning impression about the organizations’ readiness to welcome the new joiners

    4. Adequate preparation needs to be undertaken to give the campus/college recruits a delightful first day experience in the organization in the form of a robust On boarding experience.

    5. A great Management/graduate trainee program architecture is mandatory to reap the benefits of an attractive campus recruitment program

    These are some basic and easy steps an HR Manager can follow to design a Campus Recruitment Program.

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  2. Getting Down & Dirty With Your Dating Values

    November 22, 2011 dmuvha670

    Introduction

    Are you single and frustrated with your dating efforts? Tired of spending all your hard-earned cash at the local coffee shop for what seems like the millionth blind date? Or maybe things have been going smashingly with your new guy until he pulls the rug out from under you just as you’ve started to open your heart to him. The scenarios are endless in the gay metropolis of dating, but the one thing that’s for certain is that there’s no magic formula on how to snag your Mr. Right.

    There are lots of things you can do to promote your chances of success, however. And this article will elaborate on one such secret that might help clear the confusion and point you in the right direction as you continue your quest for a compatible boyfriend. Sometimes pure luck is at play in meeting a quality man, like being in the right place at the right time. But more often than not, a lot of preparation is needed to date smartly. A good mixture of self-awareness and interpersonal skills is just what the doctor ordered, as you would be wise not to be led solely by your physical attraction meter when screening for potential dating prospects. Your first step before you ever set foot into the dating jungle is to have a solid sense of identity–to know who you are and what you’re looking for. Without this knowledge, you’ll likely wander and connect aimlessly with men crowding the dating pool who have little in common with you except being single as well (and sometimes not even that!). Your time and heart are too precious; so don’t waste them in a pursuit that’s not armed with some kind of map or guidepost to help lead the way. And that’s where your values come in!

    Values Defined

    Values are the things that are most important to you in your life, what you hold most dear. They give your life meaning and they are the essence of who you are and what you believe in. They are a core piece of your identity, the filler for your sense of self–your internal nucleus of sorts. Without values, life would feel empty, depressing, and stale. There would be no sense of purpose or motivation.

    Values act as guiding principles for our behavior. Ideally, you will behave and make decisions based on what you believe in. They help to keep us on track and define a sense of integrity. For example, if you value family, you will likely be proactive in your participation in family functions and in being a solid support person for them in times of need.

    So what are your values? An important tip about values first: When we are born, we are raised being taught all kinds of “shoulds” for how we ought to live our lives from our caregivers, school, peers, media, church, and society. When we become adults, however, we are now able to choose which values really fit who we are. As gay men, we’ve all been shamed for our same-sex feelings and it is actually through the coming-out process that we are able to assimilate a more positive identity through our own choosing and hard work, rejecting the homophobic values that all individuals in our society internalize initially. Coming-out is an example of the value you place in taking pride of your true self. So in identifying your values, it will be important for you to distinguish between what’s truly something you believe in versus what could potentially be someone else’s expectations of you. Whose voice do you hear? Your own? Mom or Dad? Church?

    Another bonus tip about values: Typically, when we suffer from guilt or low self-esteem, we have likely compromised a value. When we don’t act in accordance with our values, when our behavior is not in alignment with what we hold golden, our self-esteem suffers. When our behavior and values match, we feel good about ourselves and have achieved integrity and responsibility.

    Assignment: Take out a sheet of paper and make an exhaustive list of your personal values. Once you’ve completed them, go back over your list and make sure they are genuinely your values and not somebody else’s “shoulds” that you’re still carrying with you. It might also be helpful to prioritize them in order of importance to you. Examples of values might include: monogamy, honesty, passion, spirituality, justice, contribution, forgiveness, freedom, education, personal growth, etc.

    If you have a hard time figuring out what your values are, just look at how you spend your time. This screams volumes in terms of what’s important to you. Or look at your emotional reactions to things as an additional gauge and look below the surface to see what value has potentially been triggered.

    Your Values & The Pursuit of A Partner

    So what’s this all got to do with dating? Everything! The most successful couples in relationships have shared values. Nothing provides the sustenance and glue to a partnership than values; everything else pales in comparison. You and that guy sitting across from you at the coffee shop may be totally attracted to each other (but he’s SO hot!), but if you don’t have comparable visions or philosophies of life, you’ll be setting yourselves up for tons of conflict and disappointment.

    Having knowledge of your values will help you screen potential dating partners much more succinctly than just “winging it.” Knowing what your needs are for a partner and a relationship are expressions of your values and provide the map to finding Mr. Right. If you desire monogamy and he states he only engages in open relationships, this is a values clash and you won’t likely be a good fit as lovers. Or maybe you oppose drug usage and he admits to regular marijuana consumption. Turn away, no matter what your hormones are saying! It’s important to not fall into the trap of thinking you can change another person or that maybe someday they’ll have a change-of-heart.

    Your Values & Your Dating Behavior

    Solid self-awareness of your values not only helps you weed out guys who would be totally wrong for you from the real potentials, but they also can help you stay centered and true-to-form when meeting and getting to know men. It boggles my mind sometimes how heartless people can be in the dating world, treating each other with such disrespect and cruelty. From the guy who says he’ll call you and never does, to the guy who talks trash behind your back to all his friends, to the guys online who don’t reciprocate trading pictures as promised or log off at the last minute just before you’re ready to make plans to meet…These are all but just a few examples of the ways we gay men treat each other when we should be supporting each other.

    Values sometimes seem to have gone by the wayside, but if you can bring them front-and-center in all your interactions, you’ll feel much better in your own skin and won’t have to experience any unnecessary guilt. If you value honesty, make sure that you politely let the guy on your first date know that you didn’t really feel that it was a match. If you say you’re going to call him tomorrow, make every effort to do so. Living your values gives you a sense of authenticity and an aura of confidence that is very attractive.

    Conclusion

    So there you have it! One of the secrets of successful dating explained that so many people tend to think would be a no-brainer, but is so often overlooked and taken for granted. By being yourself, expressing your true sense of self in every word and action, you’re showing the world the canvas of your identity and will increase your odds of attracting other similar guys. And by being true to your values, you will be less prone to molding yourself around a relationship with a man just for the sake of being in one because you’re making conscious decisions to honor your beliefs and what’s important to you to be happy. It is hoped that this will be a good jump-start for your quest for an equal, and remember—values are sexy!

    © 2007 Brian L Rzepczynski

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  3. Black and White is Beautiful

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    Think about Laurel and Hardy for a moment, or Charlie Chaplin, and even Harold Lloyd. All true examples of early cinema genius. Today’s DVDs offer the opportunity of not only watching these classics in their pure black and white format but also in the DVD provides a colorized version. Essentially though the colorized version never quite looks right, even though it’s meant to look more modern and more realistic to latter day cinema.

    The point is this; these films were meant to be black and white because that was the level of technology of its day. But when you stand back and look at these films you can see that because the ‘life’ colour is stripped away they have in a sense become timeless and when viewed there is always something a bit special and different about them.

    The same is true of a black and white painting, poster or photograph. A black and white photograph of an old wrinkly woman sitting by her doorstep is timeless, powerful and extremely though provoking. A picture of an old building or a city view in black and white has the same affect. Without colour you tend to look more closely at the subject and see a level of detail and arguably emotion that you may never spot with full colour. As mentioned before depending on the subject a black and white piece of art is essentially timeless.

    Nostalgia is time and again the word expressed when these images are viewed. This is why so many people opt for black and white art within the home. A happy home with a touch of nostalgia is a magic recipe.

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  4. Make Romance a Priority in Your Marriage

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    Marriage is a big commitment in the lives of two people. A marriage usually begins with romance but sometimes there are factors that interfere with the amount of romance in our lives. When life gets busy, our romantic relationships and romance all together is often put aside and in the end your relationship could begin to suffer. Sometimes we forget all about romance if we are in a marriage for a while. It’s time to make romance a priority in your marriage. Here are some ways you can increase the romance in your marriage.

    There are so many fun and free ways to increase the romance in your life! Increasing the romance in your life and spending more time with your partner may also save your relationship or marriage from going bad.

    Make your loved one/partner a homemade card. Make the card with love and use free things that you find around the home in the card that shows you really care and that you put your time into this. Put the card in his/her mailbox and they will find a romantic surprise when they open the box!

    For married couples with children, do something helpful that you normally would not do such as bathing the kids and getting them ready for bed, cook dinner, or wash the dishes so that your partner can have some free time. You would be surprised how well the little things like this appear to be romantic and make a big difference in your partners response to you. Your partner will be more likely to reciprocate romantically.

    Write some small loves notes and put them in your partner’s lunchbox, in their shoes, in their car, at their computer or any other place that you know they will look during the day. Write romantic thoughts and things to them. Be fun and be creative. Doing this special thing for your partner will encourage your partner to do something romantic for you in turn.

    Romance involves really being there for the other person. Spending money and lighting candles is not the only thing you need to do. Real romance is so much more than that. Your romantic relationship should be everything it can be and with fun ideas and romantic tips you can help bring back the “spark” and “electricity” you once had with your partner.

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  5. How to Choose a Car Stereo

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    Life is the music that you play. When you are a proud owner of a car, one of the most pleasant activities for any music lover is choosing the car stereo. The car stereo company enhances the feel of the car, the music playing to the sound of the words tuning to the beats and the rhythm creating its move as you drive. One of the most important features which interest me in any car is the car stereo.

    Now, many of us think about getting a good car stereo. Before you get one, it is beneficial to do some research and see what kind of music system you are looking for in the car stereo company. The easy way to check for car stereo systems is to get online and check on the internet. You get to look at various audio systems and enhancements. The car stereo company offers a wide variety; different price ranges viz-a-viz quality and specifications. There are many car audio magazines one can refer before heading to the stereo company. It would be a good idea to sit and write the features you are looking for in the stereo system.

    Also, note down the make and model of your car so that you can ask the salesperson of the stereo company to give you options based on what you are looking for and what would best suit the kind of car you have. Check on various options within your budget and listen to the sound of the audio system before you choose one. Know the settings of the audio system so that you can operate it with ease and comfort. If you are a radio lover look for 12 FM and 6 AM presets. Ensure the head unit has buttons of your choice and ease. Many of the cars also have audio controls on the steering wheel so you can drive and change music channels and modes at your preference. Check the output for MP3 player options. A USB port will do you good, you can store music in the USB drive and connect it when you want to listen to your favorite tracks and there is no need to change CD’s on a regular basis. The head unit is the life of the car stereo system.

    The other component to check is the deck. The deck is a crucial part of any car stereo system. Check the channel output of the speakers, the equipment range from CD’s, MP3 and cassette decks. The deck also allows you to control the sound and music. Well, to enjoy music at its best, get an amplifier. An amplifier enhances the power of sound. Go ahead and play some loud music to your ears. Once you know the kind of music system you are looking for, test your speakers for their frequency and sound quality. The speakers are the soul of any stereo system. To feel the beat and to make your car vibrate, get a good subwoofer. The bass will set the pace and one can enjoy music to the fullest!

    Drive to tunes which soothe and make your drive smooth.

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  6. Vital Child Custody Guidelines Fathers Should Not Ignore

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    It would be nice if fathers had a copy of “The Official Child Custody Guidelines” to read before they went to court for custody of their child. Unfortunately, there is no set child custody guidelines spelled out in any law book for fathers to read. Therefore no such book exists. It’s hard being a father going to court to get custody of your kids, ill prepared and fearing the unknown. This article will give you tips to follow before you go to see the judge and have a long child custody battle on your hands.

    Be Accessible

    The judge is going to look at your work schedule to ensure you have the time to raise your child. If you travel for your job and are out of town 3 days a week, this really stacks the deck against you. Simply put, a typical 9 to 5 job (or 7 to 5 for most of us) is suffice. The judge just wants to make sure you are available for your child and that you have the time in your schedule to devote to your child.

    Your Past Criminal Record

    Hopefully you don’t have a past criminal record. If that’s the case then you can just skim over this section. However, if you’ve had some run is with the law (in a negative way) then make sure you address this with your lawyer before you go to court. Because believe me, your ex-wife will bring it up and the judge will look into it further.

    Positive Re-enforcement Issues

    All healthy families have disciplinary guidelines. It’s normal. However, if you are the type of father to reach for your belt every time your child is out of line, then the judge will certainly frown on this. Also, make sure the environment you have your child in as the primary care giver is free of negative influences. This would include hostility towards your ex-wife. So be civil with her for here on out.

    How’s Your Character?

    Our youth is so easily influenced these days with who’s on the cover of the magazines or who’s the next great signer, that they need a person with a positive and strong character in their lives. Hopefully that person is you. If you have a good job, are a non-smoker, non-drinker and you go to church every Sunday, then the odds of you winning a custody battle are greater than the person who is on unemployment, drinks, smokes and never goes to church. Does that make sense? So the perfect candidate would be one who works full time, has time to coach his kid’s soccer team, has weekends off, goes to church regularly and has a clean background.

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  7. Don’t Become an Emotional Recluse If You Lose Your Ex

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    There are times when relationships end but you are still in love and don’t know how to cope with the loss. You need some assistance in dealing with your emotions. Now you are faced with two decisions which are either to get on with your life and find someone new or to find a way to win your ex back. By deciding to move on may sound like the easier of the two decisions but actually it may be the most difficult depending on unresolved issues or emotional attachments that are not so easily severed.

    You will need to allow yourself time to heal and seek answers from your ex which will allow you unfettered ties so you can become a more well rounded person emotionally when you are ready to start dating again. The first few days and months after a breakup are the hardest since our emotions can fluctuate on a daily basis where one minute you are raging against your ex and the next minute proclaiming undying love. Try not to be too hard on yourself especially if he initiated the breakup after all there were things that you both did wrong or did not communicate effectively to each other.

    We can only offer what we know how to give in a relationship. Concern yourself with your well being by taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Now is the time to let your friends and family share in your emotions.

    Everyone has been through this process at one time or another. If you don’t have a trusted friend or family member to confide in you might want to seek the services of a professional counselor who will help you sort out your feelings. It is imperative that you don’t become an emotional recluse.

    If you have decided you want to find a way to get your ex back then you will need a strategic plan based on level headed thinking.

    Some of the very same steps you’d take if you decide to remain severed from the relationship work for getting him back as well as they encompass some old fashioned advice such as keeping up your appearance, counseling either with a trusted friend or family member and putting some distance between you and your ex.

    When the time is right give him a call and set up a face to face meeting. Make it a neutral setting such as a coffee shop or location you have no emotional connection to. Try to present your thoughts without too much of an emotional scene. He’ll be more open to listening if you can present yourself calmly and in control.

    Give him the opportunity to share how he is feeling as well. Don’t attempt to settle things then and there, give him time to think over the situation. Be prepared for however he may feel. Sadly there is no guarantee he may feel the same as you do.

    All you can do is lay your heart on the line and hope he feels the same but remember nothing ventured, is nothing gained.

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  8. Rich in Marriage, Rich in Life

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    Well you may not become a billionaire or even a millionaire, but research shows that marriage helps couples and individuals generate more income and wealth than singles, and even cohabitating couples.

    According to The Marriage Project researchers out of Rutgers University in New Jersey,

    “… People who marry become economically better off. Men become more productive after marriage; they earn between ten and forty percent more than do single men with similar education and job histories. Marital social norms that encourage healthy, productive behavior and wealth accumulation play a role. Some of the greater wealth of married couples results from their more efficient specialization and pooling of resources, and because they save more. Married people also receive more money from family members than the unmarried (including cohabiting couples), probably because families consider marriage more permanent and more binding than a living-together union…”

    If married couples have so much potential to be wealthy, why are money issues one of the leading causes of divorce? I have one simple answer. When couples take their focus off of their partner‘s emotional, physical and spiritual needs to worry about their finances or acquire more material possessions, they loose sight of one of the greatest missions and privileges of life: to love another human being.

    Money is a wonderful and powerful tool, but don’t let it consume you. Here are seven ways to find balance and keep your marriage happy and healthy.

    1. Set financial goals for your family and prioritize them.

    2. Develop a spending plan that can help both parties feel fulfilled. A great example of this strategy can be found in Debt-Proof Your Marriage: How to Achieve Financial Harmony by Mary Hunt.

    3. Owe no one anything but love. Work towards being debt free.

    4. Create a savings plan that includes 3-6 months living expenses. Then focus on investments. It may be tight, but try living off of one income for a time.

    5. Try to find ways to be generous and give to charitable organizations regularly. If you belong to a church, tithe.

    6. Pay the bills together. I know it may seem hard to find the time at first, but it can be a chance to review current spending.

    7. Work towards owning a home (or a new car) only when you’re ready. Don’t feel the urge to do it because you’ve had a baby, your friends are doing it, or you’re “tired of renting”.

    I leave you with this final word: Richness is not about having more money or showing off what you have. It’s about finding abundance where you are and having courage, grace and savvy to go beyond your current circumstance.

    Be rich.

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  9. Keep Your Relationship Alive – Flirt With Your Partner

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    Many couples complain that, as time passes, their relationship is not what it used to be anymore. This is because at the beginning of a relationship both partners flirt and this keeps their interest awake. Nobody says that this has to end once you move in together or you get married. Flirting with your partner or husband at all times and even in the most unexpected situations will keep your relationship alive. The key is to constantly keep him interested in you and to always make him think about you.

    Make sure you feel like you are at a first date each time you go out. Other couples will sure envy the sparkle in your relationship and will want to know the secret. Here are some proven tips to revive your relationship and boost the passion in your marriage:

    Revive the Passion and Save Your Relationship

    No matter how busy you are, you can sure find a few minutes to draw his attention. Give him clues of what’s going to happen tonight, in your bedroom. Send him an e-mail during the day with a few words that sound like an invitation for tonight or with a picture that brings back memories. Make sure everything is decent and subtle. He will sure know what’s on your mind.

    Surprise him with revealing some erotic thoughts when he least expects it. For instance tell him about a dream or a fantasy you had while he does something absolutely ordinary like washing the dishes. He will sure keep that in mind for the entire day and he will eagerly wait for the night to come.

    Tease Your Partner and Flirt with Him

    Tease him constantly and make sure he knows what’s on your mind while you are out. Some innocent kissing games when he comes to pick you up from work never hurt. Make sure no one sees you. The fact that you are having dinner after work doesn’t mean that you can’t dress provocative. Wear something sexy underneath your office clothes and let him know this.

    Make Him Want You More Than Life Itself

    During dinner maintain constant physical contact with him. Touch him “accidentally” and also draw his attention on your body. Bite your lips sensually or play with your hair. Keep in mind that everything needs to be subtle. Don’t be too obvious because men don’t like this. He should read your intention through the lines and he should only receive hints on your plans together. If you have a surprise for him, like a weekend getaway or something, don’t spoil all the mystery. Leave some details to his imagination and play a little mysterious woman.

    Keep Your Man Interested in You

    Don’t only focus on hints and clues while you are at dinner. Keep the conversation going and introduce some teasers from time to time. It’s important that you two talk a lot. Otherwise you’ll realize at some point that you bore each other. It’s not very important what you talk about. Everything that interests you both is good.

    Surprise Your Partner and Set a Positive Tone to Attract Him

    It’s important to always surprise your partner even if you know each other for long. Ask him to choose you a suitable outfit for your next date, from underwear to mascara. He will be surprised, but he will also enjoy the fun experience. Come up with surprises or out of the ordinary things as often as you have the occasion. None of you will get bored this way and you’ll always have something new in your relationship.

    Love games can also revive a relationship. Go out on a date and pretend you don’t know each other, for instance. Go to a party together and act as strangers that are irresistibly attracted to each other. There are plenty of things you can do to revive your relationship. Flirting isn’t the attribute of young couples. Married partners can also enjoy it from time to time.

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  10. Intentional Loving

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    This could be said to be one of the most satisfying forms of love that could ever be in existence. The problem with us as human beings is that we tend not to show this kind of love when it comes to the intimate relationships that we are a part of, and yet we expect to enjoy such relationships and hope that they work out for the better of both the parties that are involved. Intentional love could be described as the type of love that we practice rather than just talk about or expect to be shown, and it is best shown when it comes to children, where we hold our children in high regard and always do a lot to show that we care for them. Even though problems may at times strain this relationship, we still intend to love them, and this is what intentional love is all about.

    When it comes to an intimate relationship, we may at times have this type of love, but this is usually during the first stages of knowing each other, or when you have just decided to be a couple. You see your partner to be this perfect person who is there to show love and care to you, and there is nothing else that you could do but to oblige to the feelings of love and reciprocate. During such times, we would tend to show our partner that we love them unconditionally, and that there is not one else that you would think of in such a way but them alone. This is intentional love, but the problem sets in when this love begins to fades away once we get to know the person much better, and we begin to experience some problems in the relationship. This is why we begin to hold back on the love.

    When it comes to intentional loving, you have got to realize that things may not always be smooth, but this is not a reason not express your love to the person that you say to love. The emphasis on this kind of love is put in giving rather than receiving. This is what we usually do when it comes to children, as some of them come to see later in life that we love them despite them being opposed to some of the decisions that we make as they are kids that they do not understand their implications at the time. If you are to show love to others in such a way, you would feel a greater attraction to them, and they would most likely soon reciprocate in this front. However, if you are both waiting on each other, you might end up breaking up as none of you would be showing the intention to love.

    Part of intentional loving is also showing support for one another and showing that their opinions do matter. You should not be the person to always criticize the other person. Learn to tolerate as this is part of love.

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